“Normality is a paved road: It’s comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow on it.”
— Vincent van Gogh
You mean she would rather imagine herself relating to an absent person than build relationships with those around her?
Amélie (via aurorasdreamerie)
We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.
its really important to make sure you really like a person for who they really are and not just the idea of them
Very awesome Bee Cosplayer at WonderCon with the voice of Bee, Allyn Rachel and of course… PuppyCat!
He allowed himself to be swayed by his conviction that human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them, but that life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.
Gabriel García Márquez, Love in the Time of Cholera (via fuckyeahexistentialism)